Confidence and self Love

Self-confidence is one of the most important, yet most difficult attributes to cultivate for a healthy self-esteem.  

The good news is that self-confidence can be built, and the more you do so, the more successful you’ll be.  Self-confidence, however, stems from several areas of life…and as a result, it is important to build it holistically:

 Self-confidence starts with the mind

 Positive thinking begets positive results…and the kinder you are to yourself, the happier you’ll be.

1. Acknowledge Your Accomplishments: Think about your life and what you have achieved so far.  Maybe you have earned your degree.  Maybe you were promoted.  Maybe you had a baby.  Acknowledge and write down the things you are proud of having achieved.  Don’t think about what others think of your accomplishments, but instead, think of what makes YOU proud.  Maintain this list throughout your life and review it every so often to remind yourself of the things you have achieved.
2. Focus on Your Strengths: Take a look at the kind of person you are and think about your strengths.  Maybe you are a good listener and are especially thoughtful.  Maybe you are hard working.  Maybe you volunteer.  List out your strengths and the characteristics you love about yourself.  Again, refer to this list every so often to remind yourself of the wonderful qualities you possess.  
   
3. Be Positive and Let go of Negativity.   Negativity breeds more negativity.  When you start to think negatively about yourself, a situation or another person, stop yourself and instead, find something positive on which to focus.  Staying mentally positive will help you to be outwardly positive. 

The importance of  your physical body

1. Exercise.  Exercising will help you to feel energized and more positive.  Further, you’ll release endorphins, which are “happy hormones” which will help with the mental side of self-confidence.
2. Take Pride in the Way You Look. Taking care in the way you dress and your outward appearance can have a tremendous impact.  You’re probably the most critical of yourself, and so, when you don’t look good, it changes the way you feel about yourself, and as a result, the way you come across to others.  
3. Take Yoga or Pilates. If you are tight on a budget, buy a DVD and practice yoga or pilates at home.  Why?  Because both of these modalities can do wonders for your posture and inner peace.  Good posture sends yourself and others a message that you are self-confident, alert and empowered.  However, those with bad posture come off lacking in confidence and unsure of themselves.

Get Personal.

1. Make Eye-Contact. Making eye contact can be challenging when you lack confidence.  The more you do it, however, the easier it gets.  Eye-contact sends others a message that you are comfortable with yourself and with connecting with them.  
2. Smile. Although there are times when smiling seems way to difficult, forcing yourself to smile can help you break through some of the most uneasy of times and feel more self-confident.  Further, smiling at others elicits a smile back, sending you positive reinforcement along the way.
3. Be Complimentary. Paying others compliments not only makes them feel good about themselves, but will also make you feel good for doing so.  Instead of finding fault with others (which is often a result of our finding fault with ourselves), find the good in others, which will also allow us to see the good in ourselves.

How is your level of  self-confidence and self love?